Remember how we last spoke about perception and how it shapes the way we deal with issues and influences their outcomes? One key principle about perception that's worth learning is this: see things as they really are.

The Trap of Expectations

A lot of people hold on to the idea of what something should be or what it's supposed to be, rather than accepting it for what it really is. Instead of seeing things as they are, they cling to expectations. As a result, they let a lot of things slide because they're hoping to get something back for what they've invested.

Relationships and Reality

Take relationships, for example. You don't automatically earn the right to be treated a certain way just because you think you deserve it or because you have a personal idea of how you want to be treated. That expectation, by itself, doesn't guarantee anything.

So instead of operating in what should be, learn to deal with what is. Let your perception be based on reality, not just on desire.

Clear Vision, Clear Choices

Let go of the expectations that cloud your view and start seeing people, situations, and dynamics as they actually are. That's when you can make clearer, healthier choices.

Perception and "Think and Do"

This principle is also really important when it comes to applying the idea of "Think and Do." If you want to succeed and reach your goals, you need a clear perception of the world around you. That starts with learning to see things as they truly are.

The Stone and the Bread

See a stone as a stone. Don't try to convince yourself it's bread. Don't shape situations into what you wish they were. Look at them for what they are. That kind of honesty will help you respond to life with wisdom, not just emotion. It will help you deal with situations on their own terms, and make decisions that move you forward, not keep you stuck.

Remember: Reality doesn't change because we wish it were different. But when we see things as they really are, we can respond with wisdom and make choices that actually move us forward.